My first marriage lasted 13yrs. Neither of us were born again Christians ... I was more C of E and checked in at church now and again, and timed it just right when I did attend to enter into church at communion time to get the round wafer (loved the way it melted in my mouth)
That marriage failed and I came to know Christ in a more intimate way that same year. 6 years after my divorce I got married again. I thought this was my ticket to happiness but it turned out to be a marriage of convenience and of abuse...physical emotional mental and sexual abuse.. 7 years long. I held resentment and bitterness and slowly I let it go after sharing my testimony of no longer being ashamed.